Five-Minute Friday: READY

Ready. Set. Go.

Are you ready?

Ready for the day. Ready for the challenge. Ready for the unknown?

Part of me gets very excited at the thought. The other part of me, not so much.

So I think I know what today will bring… a 2-mile walk in a few minutes… some writing… some sales work… and then the weekend! I am definitely ready for a weekend!

But more importantly than all that, is my lamp lit and am I ready if today were to be my last day on earth?

Yes. Yes, I am ready for that!

I am ready to see Jesus face to face.

I am ready to meet my maker.

I am definitely ready to be done with this painful, sinful, temporary world.

Rick Warren said recently that we should not make a bucket list of things we want to DO but instead, of what we want to BE.

For me the first thing on that list is to BE ready.

How about you?


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What Domestic Violence Looks Like?

The Washington Post just ran an editorial entitled “What Domestic Violence Looks Like”.

Their article is written about the one video depicting one example of what a battered girlfriend or wife can go through with an abusive husband… in this case it is in the news because that particular husband is a well-known NFL player.

Most battered women are not fortunate enough to be around a video camera when it happens, nor are they married to someone famous enough to make the news. 

I wasn’t.

Sometimes domestic violence looks less like a knock-out punch and more like standing terrified in a corner while furniture is being thrown around the room.

And like the woman in the video, we almost always think it is our fault.

I always did.

Did you see yourself in that video? Or someone you know?

In my story, Released, I show another picture of what domestic violence can also look like… not where you’re ‘knocked out cold’ and dragged out of an elevator. But where your soul has been knocked out little by little with every bruise and tear.

And by the grace of God, I got help, and got free. Ultimately I found hope and my honesty again. 

If you are trapped in domestic violence, please read my book… maybe you will see a picture that you recognize in your own life and realize that you too can get free.


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Five-Minute Friday: Whisper

I don’t want to whisper today. I want to scream. There is no one here to hear me either way, so it wouldn’t really matter. But the person I talk to on these quiet alone days is God, and I could calmly and sweetly whisper my prayer, but I don’t want to. I want to scream it!

Hello God… 

Are you up there?

Are you listening?

Why aren’t you helping me?

Why are all these problems still unsolved?

Why, why, why.


Maybe if I would be quiet, I would hear Him whisper… maybe something like this.


Yes, Shari, I’m here.

Yes, I’m listening.

I really am helping you even if you don’t see it yet.

Unsolved? Maybe they’re not going to be solved. Anytime soon anyway.

Maybe those problems are to get you to turn to me because you know in your heart and soul that I’ve got it, and that I’ll solve them all in my time. You know I could do it now, in a heartbeat, if that’s how I had it planned.

You won’t know all the whys until we meet face to face.

And even as I write that, I know I don’t need to stress. I know that I am just to show up and do what He’s given me to do every day. And He will handle the rest.


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Five Minute Friday: Change

The future is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating.
The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them
changes both the maker and the destinations.

~ John Schaar


I tend to collect quotes on the subject of change. One of my favorite books is Change Agent by Os Hillman. I studied Organizational Development. I love change. OK, I really don’t like to experience change that I did not choose, but I am good at walking through the change process, always with hope that the new destination, or new process, or new anything will be an improvement over the old.


The greener grass theory? Maybe in some ways. Eternal optimist? Probably. After relocating so many times in my life, I learned early on that I would find both joy and loss in change. A second chance. A new landscape, be it house, or school or job.


Early on I was surprised when the same problems or the same problem people showed up in that new world. Because the destination may have changed, but I had not.


The future is definitely something we have the ability to create and when we forge through and make a new path, the process changes us.



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Five-Minute Friday: TELL

Tell the truth.


No matter what, truth is always the right choice.

Now HOW you tell the truth is key to communication. Your tone of voice, or tone in your writing tells more about how your heart feels than your words do. So tell the truth in love and you might be heard. If you spew the truth out in angry judgmental words, it will not be heard. Only the anger and emotion will be heard.

Children especially, hear the emotion and not the words. Begin with the emotion of love.

When my son was small and had disobeyed, especially deliberate disobedience used to make me crazy. When I was angry, I would say “Go to your room and I’ll come talk to you once I get over my anger.” Once I had calmed myself down I could rationally address the behavior. I wish I could say I did this 100% of the time, but I was not a perfect parent. No one is perfect.

Do you tell the truth?

How do you do it so that love is the only emotion someone hears?

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Five Minute Friday: Begin

Where do I begin?

Each day begins with a new promise, that no matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last month, today we can begin again. We can do something today that will matter in 5 years, or for eternity. We can begin to change something. We have the ability to begin something new.

Every day.

This has been a tough week, stewing over things I cannot ‘fix’, recovering from the physical and emotional challenges of the month of July. Dealing with broken Internet and cable services that AT&T cannot seem to fix permanently. I like to think I’m troubleshooting things, but that would imply that I have the ability to fix it, and sadly I do not.

So today I choose to begin again with hope and joy, fortifying my spirit with wisdom from Psalm 119 and John 10 and Philippians 4:4, and I resolve to rejoice and to choose joy and to begin today anew with love.

What will you begin today?



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Quotes gathered while I was at the beach…

It was a long-planned, 1-week, 4-generation family vacation at a NC beach. Face-time with loved ones. Sometimes we need to get out from behind the computer and journal with pen and paper, laugh at crazy UNO Attack games and occasionally cry together. Face to face.

Now as I re-enter my life, I cherish the quiet for reflection and an appreciation for this new normal. Found these very appropriate quotes upon my return…

I hope you always have a shell in your pocket…and sand in your shoes.
~ Unknown

Creating Value: Don’t boil the ocean. Solve one problem at a time and expand from there.
~ Mark Oakes

Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere.
~ Glenn Turner

And then there is this one to prepare me to get back into writing the book…

When something goes wrong in your life, just yell ‘PLOT TWIST!’ and move on.
~ Kelly Martin

What awaits you in your new week?

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Five Minute Friday: Belong

Belong. The sense that you feel a part of something, somewhere, some group. Several of us discussed this very subject yesterday in the context of being without a job and feeling the loss of belonging somewhere.

You have a badge or a key that lets you in the door. You have an employee number assigned to you. You are part of the family of the company, no matter how dysfunctional a family it is – you belong to it.

So when that is gone, where do you belong?

If the definition of belong is to FIT somewhere… what causes you to feel that you belong? Is it a feeling of being accepted? Of being liked?

I have more questions than answers about this word. In a lifetime of moving and environment disruption, for me it is less about a job than it is about the location of that job.

What makes you feel like you belong?

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